Please make sure if you read this, you read the last paragraph. It explains that this is not directed at individuals, but at a specific topic recently highlighted in the news.
Aren’t we trying to get straight people to accept us, not continue to hate us but worry about opening their gob for fear of being sent to prison?
The most common type of homophobia today is uneducated people, who see us as an easy target to hurl some abuse at. How many times have us gays verbally abused someone because they’re overweight? How many times have we called someone a tramp because of how they dress where they live? AND ALSO, how many times have we verbally abused a gay lad because he was super camp? Surely the latter makes you just as homophobic?
I am all for fighting for our rights, and I respect the people who have worked very hard to make living as a homosexual as easy as it is today. Recent events in the news annoy me and not for the same reason most of you are annoyed. I am annoyed because some members of the public want a guy sent to prison for being mouthy in public. I agree justice should be served when an offence is committed, like physical abuse or life threatening bullying; but all he was doing is taking the piss out of someone for being a fucking puff!
We want to be equal, correct? We want straight people to accept us and not think we are annoying drama queens right? THEN STOP GIVING THEM REASON TO HATE US! When a guy calls me a queer, I laugh at them and sometimes offer them more time to think of a better insult. Do you think a straight person would even consider sending a gay to prison for heterophobic abuse? I refer to them as breeders all the time, not once has a heterosexual been offended.
I always remember my mum telling me, if you show that it gets to you when people wind you up; they are going to continue doing it. People should all take a leaf out of her book and brush off pathetic verbal abuse!
Next time you receive homophobic abuse, just walk on as all that was said was a cheap immature shot to get to you.
Surely we can’t justify convicting someone for a type of verbal abuse, when nearly all of us judge and take the piss out of others for reasons equally offensive to them.
Noun: The practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behaviour does not conform; pretence.
I just want to say that this is no way targeted at the two lads involved in the recent event, one of whom I know more than the other and know he is a very nice, caring guy; I know they weren’t expecting this to be such a viral cause.
There are three types of relationships in the gay world: The ones that don’t work out and break up, the lucky ones who find their soul-mate and whom they are happy with for life, and finally… The ones who realise that monogamy is realistically long gone and that it is time to introduce others into their personal life.
What happened to the times where we worshipped the ground your other half walked on?
I personally would love nothing more than to meet somebody that I’d be monogamously happy with for the rest of my life but unfortunately, like most gay men, I also like to play about. Having your cake and eating it springs to mind, ironically eating cake may leave you fewer boys when going down this road.
There are many reasons why people feel an open relationship is necessary, but ultimately, these reasons have come into play more so now that sex is SO EASILY available. Yes, I’m sure, since human race began some men have always felt the need to play about while also having a #1 partner to climb into bed with at night; but why isn’t this #1 partner enough and are apps such as ‘Grindr’ bringing monogamy to an end?
One question of thought that crosses my mind is; is the person who instigates an open-relationship looking for something more psychically attractive, while still not wanting to lose the person he ‘loves’? A controversial question some may say BUT, inevitably you are introducing a third or more into your personal life because you find them ‘fit’. I’ve been here before myself, you want to bring in #3 because he has a fit arse which you want or a fit dick you want to play with. What is wrong with just you and #1 playing about instead?
I’m sure you have already figured out what you want from your relationship, what will make you happy and what help keep you and #1 together for as long as possible; but what complications can an open-relation have on you and said partner? Just to name a few: Insecurities, loss of trust and questioning the love you both have for one-another. When complications do arise, unfortunately you will probably end up one of those couples that don’t work out and break up; that or you actually realise that #1 is all you need and therefore become one of the lucky ones whom they are happy to be with for ‘life’.
If you are going to enter into an open-relationship, it is not something you can flippantly jump into; you really need to talk with #1 about how this will work. What roles do you both want to play? How far are you willing to go with #3? What, sexually, do you want to keep personal?
It’s not an easy thing to do if you want it to work, and you will always be playing with fire.